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So you want to write your own vows?

Wedding eve private vow-writing session for a bride-to-be with writer’s block. She spoke from her heart and I gently crafted her words into vows. If you are a wedding client of mine — whether for a custom wedding package or a distance ceremony-writing package — one-on-one support with writing or editing vows is included with my services!

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Writing your own wedding vows can be tricky work. Luckily, there are a lot of resources out there on the Internet for writing your own wedding vows. These are three of my favorites:

10 Steps to Writing Your Own Wedding Vows | The Knot

My favorite tip from this article:

“Take some time to reflect on your fiancé. Think about how you felt when you first met, what made you fall in love and when you knew you wanted to get married. Write it all out. Here are some questions to get you started:

  • Why did you decide to get married?
  • What hard times have you gone through together?
  • What have you supported each other through?
  • What challenges do you envision in your future?
  • What do you want to accomplish together?
  • What makes your relationship tick?
  • What did you think when you first saw your fiancé?
  • When did you realize you were in love?
  • What do you most respect about your partner?
  • How has your life gotten better since meeting your mate?
  • What about them inspires you?
  • What do you miss most about them when you are apart?
  • What qualities do you most admire in each other?”

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How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows | Jessie Blum for Offbeat Bride

My favorite tip from this article:

Begin by talking about something you love about your partner, or something they have contributed to their lives.  This is a great spot to include an anecdote or story that brings this moment to life.  For example, in my own wedding, my husband talked about the day that we met, and how that was the day that his whole life changed.

Next, include some promises. Ones that you will look to guide your marriage.  These can be serious: “I promise to stand by your side, and bring out the best in you, in all adventures.” Or a little sillier: “I promise to laugh at your jokes (most of the time).”  In fact, I think the best vows are a beautiful balance of seriousness and humor.

And now, let’s end it with a look to the future.  What do you look forward to sharing in your marriage?  What are your goals, your aspirations, the qualities you want to embody as a couple?”

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Six Steps to Writing Meaningful Wedding Vows | Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway for Huff Post Weddings

My favorite tip from this article:

Connect to the feelings. Before you write, take a moment of to reconnect to the energy and magic that made you want to get married. Remember the moment you recognized your relationship was meant to be; reflect on the excitement of the day you became engaged.  Think of the little things that your beloved does to make you happy. Let the feelings flow and the vows will likely flow out, too.  Start writing down the thoughts that surface.”

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How about you? Did you or will you write your own wedding vows? Any tips to add?

scenes from a wedding :: five fun ideas

Over the weekend, I was scrolling through the photos on my phone and I realized I’ve seen some pretty cool ideas at weddings this year. I thought it would be fun to pull some together in a post and share with you.

1. Instant Camera Selfie Station

2. Beach Stones and Sharpies for a Guest Book

3. Flower Seed Packets as Wedding Favors

4. Hanging Vases of Flowers

5. Homemade Paper Flowers as a Bridal Bouquet

How about you? What fun ideas have you seen at weddings?

For those who are married, what fun and creative things did you do at your wedding?

scenes from a wedding :: duck & bunny

My most recent wedding ceremony took place in the cozy back patio space at the Duck & Bunny in Providence, RI.

When I met with the bride and groom to talk about their intentions for their ceremony, they said that they really wanted it to feel like a big party with a wedding in the middle, rather than having the wedding ceremony be the main event. And I think that is just what we were able to create; a nice short and simple wedding ceremony wrapped by a lovely afternoon party.

Before the ceremony started (I always arrive about an hour early to get settled in and coordinate with other vendors) I spent some time inside the Duck & Bunny, enjoying the cozy, sweetness of the place while the bride and groom greeted each of their guests personally as they arrived.

And then it was out to the back patio where the ceremony took place.

After the ceremony, I stuck around to hear the groom’s young son give his (flawless!) best man’s speech and then as I exited through the restaurant, I paused to take one last photo of the bride’s beautiful homemade paper flower bouquet.

It was a relaxing afternoon at a lovely venue and I am grateful that I got to be a part of it.

scenes from a wedding :: wetherledge estate

At each wedding I perform, I always find myself pulling out my iPhone to photograph some of the sweet details of the ceremony and reception site and so today I thought I would start a new feature here on my blog: scenes from a wedding.  In it I will include a few photographs from each wedding with a short description of the ceremony.

Come, join me with a peek into my latest wedding ceremony…

This past weekend I had the honor of officiating a Hindu-Western Fusion Ceremony.

The bride’s family took the lead on the Hindu traditions and I served as a guide to give guests an overview of what to expect and then took over and led the Western portion of the ceremony.

The ceremony began when the groom arrived and his family and friends led his car into the estate while drums played. It was one of the most festive and celebratory greetings I have ever been witness to. Shortly after, the bride arrived and walked down the petal-covered aisle, barefoot, as is customary in Hindu ceremonies.

During the the first part of the ceremony, the bride and groom exchanged Garlands and walked the Seven Steps of Marriage. The bride’s family sang blessings.

As the bride and groom removed their garlands and put on their shoes, I took over the ceremony, leading a traditional Western wedding ceremony, where the bride and groom exchanged their “I do’s,” were pronounced married and had their first official kiss as husband and wife.

It was absolutely beautiful from start to finish and it was an honor to be part the day.

(Setting: Wetherledge Estate in Jamestown, RI)

{ this moment } living room wedding

As the holiday dust settles, I’m wanting to make more of an effort to swing by this space on a more regular basis. I thought I’d begin today by joining Amanda with an image from the week that I want to savor and remember. This one is from a home wedding that I performed last weekend. (Isn’t it cozy?)

Happy Weekend, friends.

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